The view from afar
Sep. 12th, 2020 10:57 pm![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
nosrednaydujSo things are not all rosy in California. My mother is not liking the assisted living facility, and there are definitely some problems, and my stepfather is upset that she's having a bad time, and feels guilty that he left her there. So he wants to take her back out. We spoke with the management and tried to ameliorate some of the problems, and she said she had a pretty good day today as a result, but there were new problems that cropped up. So my guess is that he's going to take her out on Monday or Tuesday. He's got nine hours a day of his usual morning helper lined up to cover the daytime (I wonder if he's considered the fact that he's going to be on the hook for five hours of overtime as a result), and he says "I can do the night care". I'm skeptical that this is a long-term solution, and I'm skeptical that my stepsister will put up with it.
I contacted a geriatric care manager in Chico, and he gave a suggestion of a place that has two bedroom apartment assisted living, which would mean they could live together there. It would be more expensive, but would cover the safety problems that both my stepsister and I are concerned about with just my stepfather being the overnight caregiver. I asked if they could leave the apartment facility to go out, as my stepfather likes to go to the golf course, and they said that it was "not advised" but "we are not a prison, so as long as they follow safety precautions while they are out it's okay". Who knows what this would really translate into in terms of walking out and getting in your own car. (Is there parking? I didn't ask that.)
I could also rent them a house and get separate overnight staff, but that would be quite a bit more expensive. Maybe we wouldn't need every night; maybe we could get by with three or four nights a week of coverage, and then there would only be one person involved instead of a whole service. Maybe we could get a recommendation from their current daytime person, whom they love, which might make them trust the person more.
Anyway, it's looking like another trip to Chico will be in my future. Maybe we can wait until it's not 105° out. Not sure if we can wait until California's not on fire, since prior experience suggests that doesn't stop until late November. I'm really not sure what the right final solution is, and I'm really not sure how to handle all of the interpersonal issues.
Meanwhile, today, I rode my bike, and then I rode my motorcycle too, since it hasn't been moved in two months.
I contacted a geriatric care manager in Chico, and he gave a suggestion of a place that has two bedroom apartment assisted living, which would mean they could live together there. It would be more expensive, but would cover the safety problems that both my stepsister and I are concerned about with just my stepfather being the overnight caregiver. I asked if they could leave the apartment facility to go out, as my stepfather likes to go to the golf course, and they said that it was "not advised" but "we are not a prison, so as long as they follow safety precautions while they are out it's okay". Who knows what this would really translate into in terms of walking out and getting in your own car. (Is there parking? I didn't ask that.)
I could also rent them a house and get separate overnight staff, but that would be quite a bit more expensive. Maybe we wouldn't need every night; maybe we could get by with three or four nights a week of coverage, and then there would only be one person involved instead of a whole service. Maybe we could get a recommendation from their current daytime person, whom they love, which might make them trust the person more.
Anyway, it's looking like another trip to Chico will be in my future. Maybe we can wait until it's not 105° out. Not sure if we can wait until California's not on fire, since prior experience suggests that doesn't stop until late November. I'm really not sure what the right final solution is, and I'm really not sure how to handle all of the interpersonal issues.
Meanwhile, today, I rode my bike, and then I rode my motorcycle too, since it hasn't been moved in two months.
